Abby’s 7th Rez Day

On 18 May Abby had her 7th Rez Day. She said she didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, and also both our RL situations sometimes make it hard to meet at pre planned times so it’s difficult to organise a party. Our friends live in different time zones too, so most of what we do in SL is spontaneous.

But of course I wanted to do a little something for her, so as well as giving Abby a few gifts I set up a little surprise at home. When she logged in I took her down to our beach where a new walkway extended out to sea leading to a little platform I had set up. I took Abby by the hand and led her up the steps.


We popped the cork on a bottle of champagne, ate some cake (yum!) and then we kissed. Happy Rez day my darling ❤️


After plenty of birthday kisses we turned the music up and danced till the sun went down.

Despite the challenges we find a way to spend some time together each day. I hope our little celebration helped to make Abby’s day feel special.

Lots of our friends sent Abby lovely Rez Day greetings and gifts, which she really appreciated 🙂


Unicorn Heels, and a Special Announcement

Hey blogfans 🙂 Olivia here. First off a little announcement – From now on Abby and I are sharing this blog which is why it’s now called ‘Abby & Olivia in SL’, and the web address has changed to If you have saved the link before please update your bookmark. I think if you were already following through WordPress then you should still be following us (I hope!) Thanks so much for reading – we love you!

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Yesterday we went shoe shopping. Abby and I had seen these sexy new unicorn horn heels being promoted and decided we should go to the event and try them on. We love the idea of going out dancing together in matching heels. So we headed over the the ACE Event and found the Bishes Inc. stall.

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I watched as Abby tried on a demo shoe first. “Pretty comfy actually!” she tells me, hopping around on one foot.

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I tried on a demo in pink and Abby went with black to match her dress. “Ooh I love them”, I said, “let’s go for it.”

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We bought a pair each and strapped them on. Very high but surprisingly comfy. “Oh they suit you well. Beautiful!” Abby said. She is always complimenting me. I tell her she looks fabulous. She always looks fabulous.

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Matching unicorn heels 🦄

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We stayed a while to have a bit of a chat, I could chat to Abby all day. Doesn’t she look beautiful? Happy in our matching heels. We had a chat about where to go dancing. It’s been too long since we went out together.

After chinwagging for a little while Abby had a good idea – “Why don’t we go back to our Paris loft and take a proper photo to show off the heels?”

Abby is a brilliant Second Life photographer, she’s taught me everything I know. I am improving all the time but her photos always have that je ne sais quoi that takes them to the next level.

I agree it’s a great idea so off we go. Abby does things properly, setting up lights and so on while I take a break. I’m happy for her to take over and for me to just be a model. Anything that means I am spending time with her is good with me 🙂

Here is her finished photo, isn’t it great?

Abby & Olivia Unicorn Heels

Click on the picture to see the full size version on Abby’s Flickr. And don’t forget to “like” it!

After the shoot we relaxed for the afternoon. Shopping is hard work! A friend came round and we chatted. Then later on that night we went out dancing! As you might have seen in the previous post I was complaining about not being able to go out enough so I was super happy to have a free night in SL to go out dancing with my baby.


Credits – we are not sponsored to promote these shoes, we genuinely love them and bought them ourselves. They cost $250L from Bishes Inc. At the moment they are only available at the ACE Event.

Thanks to Candy for posting this photo which is where we found them.


To dance the night away

I’ve grumbled about it before, and it’s just a fact of life so there’s really no point but I’m going to grumble some more anyway 😂 Sometimes it feels like all the parties happen in Second Life exclusively when I can’t get onto Second Life!!

OK, OK, I’m sure that’s not literally true but I have now not been to a club or party since early April despite the fact that I love nothing more than for Abby and I to get dressed up and go out dancing together. It’s the best of all worlds: get to socialise, listen to music and dance with my darling wife all at the same time.

It’s been so long we recently talked about building our own private dance floor at home. At least that would tick two of the boxes.

I am self employed in RL which means every week is different. I don’t really have a set routine, except for the fact that Friday nights and weekends are family time. So these are the times I can least get onto SL. But this is when most the parties happen! 😭😭😭

Yesterday (Thursday night) I had a rare opportunity to spend a whole evening and night online and it was wonderful. I got to spend some quality time with Abby, which is the thing I love doing more than anything in the world. So I must not grumble too much (I am very happy, honestly… I’m the luckiest girl in all of SL 🥰)…

But were there any parties happening? Nope.

Except for… right before I went to bed at 01:30 (oops past my bedtime, naughty) I got invited over to Miktopia – which is a fabulous new beach party venue. But it was just way too late to be going out so went to bed I did.

I guess that’s the other problem – most the parties and clubs I know about are run by people in the US.

Heh, anyway. I’m sure there will be dancing soon (please let there be). Maybe today?! I have some time. But not tonight, that’s family time. And as we know RL comes first 😊.

What’s new?

Oops I forgot to post anything for… *checks*… about six weeks. This is approximately one AEON in Second Life time. Apologies!

Hmmmmm… So anyway this is just a quick update from the WordPress app on my phone (by the way you should get that it’s great!) as I woke up early.

RL has had a few minor ups and downs as usual but I am more or less fine. Finding SL time is a bit more difficult than it was due to some of this but by and large I am still managing to come on each day, although sometime it’s only for 20 minutes, to see Abby before bed. It is always going to be a juggle because I have a little boy and he always comes first 🙂

In Second Life lots has changed but I haven’t really felt the need to share it till now and well maybe it’s only interesting to me and my close friends. The big news is of course that Abby and I got married ❤️. We did it privately, didn’t really want a big occasion, but it was beautiful and I took her name so now I am Olivia Fraser. Yay! 🎉

I did not know I was looking for Abby until we met back in November. And now it is well over 100 days we’ve been together and still every day I love her more and more. That we are partners now means the world to me. I’ve not had an official partner in SL before and I will never be partnered to anyone else.

Haha and to think… going back 7-8 months I was quite shy about the idea of openly being with another woman (certainly publicly here on the web). I dated in a sense a couple of guy and it was all fun and we had some sexy times. Though not once did either of them take me anywhere interesting or romantic, they just offered me a TP to their bedroom for you know what. I asked a few times but all I got was “yeah sounds good” sort of responses. Really they were just casual sex partners.

In Abby I’ve met someone I clicked with instantly and really that’s what’s important to me whatever your gender is. And yes it’s all very romantic. I have never felt this way about anyone.

OK I could but I won’t make you cringe by going on about it any longer 😂

So what else? Well we built a new home then ripped it half out and built it again. And now it’s looking a-maz-ing. I’ll do a post on it when it’s completely finished (we are making more changes).

We got one of those much blogged about houseboats in the new continent Belliseria, which is lovely.

We also started renting a beach hut at a place called Paradise Hotel which is a recently-moved adult resort. I’ll post more on that at some stage. They are looking for more residents and it’s cheap! Ask Abby or me for details as we get a bonus for bringing in new tenants.

Oh yes I finally figured out how to make sense of the map! Abby showed me and explained a few things. Previously it was a bit like when I first moved to London and only took the tube everywhere – i.e. I never had much idea or really cared about how things fitted together relative to each other. Someone would send me a teleport offer and i would click it. I TP’d from skybox to skybox and never looked at where they were.

But then I would find myself say at a party and have no idea I was just a few floors up from where I had been a week ago, and make some embarrassing faux pas… Or I would hear names like Sansara being used but not really know what or where that was.

Sitting out on the roof terrace of our houseboat it’s much more satisfying to now have a sense of being in a vast world, and to know that I’m facing west and that there’s a sea corridor connecting to Sansara way to the north and so on.

I keep saying I want to learn how to sail (the yacht is not just there for show – honestly!) and obviously a sense of navigation is important for that. So that’s the next thing!

Hmm ok better go for now. Hope to blog a bit more over the next 6 weeks. Thanks for reading – if you did, and if you didn’t, well you’re not reading this so I may as well stop right there. 🛑

Ciao, Olivia 🐰

Farewell Home #3

Last week my life took another sudden turn. I’m not going into it here because not all of it is my business and, as with much of Second Life, real people with real hearts are involved. But suffice to say I am fine, and I sincerely hope everyone else is OK.

Out of everything came the decision to sell the home in Vacuul. I originally bought it on my own on 2 November 2018 in an auction and it was the first place I properly landscaped. I was very proud of it and it was a lovely place to relax either with friends or alone. More recently I shared the place with Abby. But – SL time being what it is – the 124 days for which I owned the place felt like an age, and in a few ways the place held too much history.

Sometimes it’s nice to just rip everything up and start again.

It was sold in just a couple of hours for more than I paid for it – to the person I barely beat to it in the original auction! So that worked out well for both of us, well kinda 🙂

This was actually my third home in Second Life. My first home was a $60L-a-week rented ‘scene changer’ skybox which was actually pretty great – and super cosy! It could be changed into any one of about 25 “scenes” including a beach hut (which was my favourite) but also had options like a Manhattan, Paris or London apartment, a castle, dungeon, various BDSM-rigged rooms (heh, of course *side-eyes-SL-builders*) and lots more. I imagine they are pretty common skyboxes so you might be familiar with these.

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My second home was a 1024 SQM plot my good friend Kendra sold to me for just 100 Lindens (she basically gave it me for free). It was great there because I became her neighbour along with Alice, and we shared some good times.

Sadly it was in the middle of an adult area so did suffer from a bit too much lag, but I did make an attempt at building there – just a simple flat garden around my house, with some little touches. In the end I sold it because I wanted a bit more scope for creativity and I wanted to be by the sea!

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Then when I won the auction I was very excited – it was the first large plot I had ever had at 2560 square metres.

I made a small mistake because I hadn’t realised the sea directly in front of my beach was not ‘protected’ water. And after a long while, one day, it reverted from being sea to having a mesh land mass with a rental sign on it. So it had been rented but unused all that time and it had finally expired. Put it down to lack of experience on my part. So after that I had to pay an additional $650L a week just to keep that rental mesh block reappearing and spoiling the view. However on a positive note it did allow me to add a beach hut and a pier and to moor my new yacht there.

I was super proud of the place, and also had lovely neighbours Candy and Sasha. I will miss it but it’s time to move on, and the future looks positive. More on that in good time.

Here’s a gallery of the old place. Out of curiosity I went back yesterday… funny seeing it all reset and empty again.

Olivia’s Tropical Paradise, 2 November 2018 – 6 March 2019


[Edit: SOLD] 2560sqm Mainland parcel

I am selling what was my home in Second Life. It’s a 2560 square metre parcel in a nice moderate region by the sea. It’s not too busy and sim lag is low. But it’s not so quiet that nobody is around -– the neighbours are friendly 🙂

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Here are a few more photos as it is now, though please note that the objects are not for sale with the land.

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On Switching to a Mesh Head

This post is well overdue because I switched from the standard Second Life system head to a mesh head on 19 January, and within a few days I had adjusted it to my liking and was wearing it out in public.

I could never go back!

But gosh I ummed and ahhed about whether I should switch to a mesh head for weeks and weeks. People told me not to change. “Mesh heads cause lag”… “You look great already”, “People with mesh heads all look the same”. There was some truth in these statements. So I will tackle them one by one:

  • Lag – yes everything that has to be loaded in world contributes to lag. By the same argument taken in reverse we could all walk around in textureless cube prims and it would be less laggy in busy places. But I want to look and feel good in my avatar so I want to look as lifelike as possible. De-render me or set a suitable complexity limit in your viewer if you don’t want to see me.
  • You look great already – Well I looked OK from a distance and with some hairstyles. But I was never that happy with how I looked close up and from some angles. And also the main thing for me was not having facial expressions. I had pretty much the same expression in every photo of me. The only time it would change was when certain furniture poses (mostly sex poses) took control over the face. But the system head “enjoyment” expressions looked pretty comical to me.
  • On all looking the same – Some models of mesh head are very popular and some people do not edit the face shape that comes with it. The one I chose was slightly less well known and I spent some time adjusting my face shape until it felt like me. Also the skin I already had came with an applier for my new head so I was able to keep my skin, which itself is a less than common one. I’m pretty sure I don’t look like a lot of other people.

I wanted to do this post for a while but needed some comparable shots of old me and new me to do a side by side comparison. Last night i set up this simple photo studio from Strawberry Singh and took off my mesh head to take these some old me shots:

Old Me 1

Old Me 1 (pre-mesh head, see link in description)

Old Me 2

Old Me 2 (pre-mesh head, see link in description)

Now, in fairness to old me these are not that flattering although the front-on one is better than the 3/4 angle one. This was always my main problem with the old head. I was never happy with how I looked in profile.

I should also point out that I didn’t adjust the hair here, which is set up for my new head. With hindsight I should have made a copy and adjusted it back how it was for these shots. My fringe is too low here. The other thing is I normally wore a blonde version of this hair with my old head, but I wanted to only change the head here to make the comparison fairer. There are plenty of more flattering pics of Old Me on Flickr such as this one and this one.

So onto New Me…

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New Me 2

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Well for a start I can smile now! I love my new face so much, it’s much softer and – obviously more expressive. For those who don’t know mesh heads come with a HUD that lets you control your facial expressions (at least the Catwa and LAQ ones do). Or you can set general moods and it just cycles through expressions that indicate that mood.

My mesh head is CATWA Head Lona (mp link)

Yes it’s quite expensive, but it’s the kind of thing you might only buy once. I tried four of their demos including the popular Catya which is also lovely, but this felt more like me. You have to start with the Bento shape that comes with it, which unfortunately also sets your whole body shape – so I made a note of all my old body shape slider settings and then typed them all back in, then finally adjusted my head shape starting from the new Bento defaults until I had what I wanted.

My skin is Solii :Nude: in (E) Chocolate (mp link) by Stix. As mentioned above I had the same skin before. It includes an Omega applier for Catwa heads.

General thoughts

I have picked up on some snobbery about mesh heads. A friend of mine got told meanly she “looked like a crappy noob” because she doesn’t have a mesh head (she is not a noob). I once got told I could not apply for a job as a dancer because I did not have one.

I think they do generally look better than system heads but it is possible to look totally great with a system head too with some adjustment and the right makeup and hair. There’s no need to be an asshole about it. Some people don’t want to spend $5000L on a mesh head or just don’t care that much and that’s totally fair enough. I’m a bit vain I suppose and just want to look my best. And this new head makes me happy and feels more like me. And the other thing is that I am really into Second Life photography (I take too many selfies) so that is a factor too.

But in no way do I subscribe to this idea that everyone has to go down this route. And yes when a sim is laggy or someone has a bad connection sometimes I appear to be headless while it loads. I guess I will just have to deal with that. *sticks out her tongue*