Six Months Old Today

I joined Second Life on 15 July 2018. Well, OK, yes, I had a previous life in 2016 but that is ancient history. I didn’t progress far in that life but I did learn a lot and that meant when I decided to come back I was able to get up to speed quite quickly.

These last six months have been completely different and I would say a life changing experience. I think I have learned enough to be out of NOOB territory, but I am not the one to be the judge of that. And having said that, because most of my Second Life friends are SL veterans it feels like every other day I still make some embarrassing faux pas due to misunderstanding something. *rolls eyes*

NOOB avatar party at Paradise Disc O Theque

Second Life is full of arbitrary curiosities and things you just have to know, which is half the charm of it I suppose but can also be confusing! There is always lots more to learn. I have a terrible memory for names of things, which doesn’t help.

For example clothes! I wish there was a visual wardrobe for individual items, or a thumbnail preview when you hover over things in the inventory. ‘What was that jacket called again?’ I need to get my head around using saved outfits I think, and saving a picture of each one. A mammoth task for that quiet day alone in SL which never seems to come along.

Avatar wise… the next thing for me that I want to do is find a mesh head that I am comfortable with. I am pretty happy with how I designed my avatar and my current head. And the skin and eyebrows I found. And people compliment me on my appearance and tell me not to change it. But I don’t like the facial expressions or sometimes lack of expressions that you get with the standard avatar head. In most pictures of me I have exactly the same expression. But I am a bit scared about looking so different with a mesh head it changes how I come across.

getting ready to go out

I am looking into the Catwa Catya head. I have had a demo in my inventory for a few weeks but have not had time to try it out because of other priorities. My skin (from Stix) that I have, and which I love, has an applier for Catwa so my understanding is that this will make it match my body perfectly. But I am still confused a bit about faces… Whether the face is set by the skin or just by the shape sliders or both, or by some other add-on else as well, and so on…  I have had it explained to me but didn’t really understand fully. I just need to try it out and see what happens!


People! When I joined in July, after I had spent a few days making my avatar, I looked up an old friend from my old life and hung out with her at a place she runs and met a couple of new friends. It wasn’t long after that I followed one of those new friends down a teleport rabbit hole one night and found myself at god-knows-where-but-some-adult-stuff-seems-to-be-going-on-and-oooh-ok-then… A sim called Chi Tau City.

When you are new and if, like me, you are curious to try new things there is the novelty of adult stuff in SL. I had not really explored it freely in my old Second Life and did, I admit, enjoy a few weeks hanging out at this adult sim and trying various things sometimes with complete strangers.

On the roof terrace with Boda

As in real life I love sex but I don’t like to talk about it too publicly. Maybe partly that is being British and maybe I should get over it. Suffice to say I am not prudish at all in private, but generally speaking I prefer to keep what goes on in the bedroom to myself. I like to try and maintain a bit of self respect in public.

Before long I got a little bored of what was sometimes basically interactive porn at this adult sim. To be fair many there do role play well and made it feel more real than just empty animations but still… Also there were a couple of occasions when I looked back at the previous night and felt a bit ashamed. I was playing this slutty version of me because I guess it is ultimately safe in SL so what the hell right? but as I got more into my life I just felt uncomfortable opening my legs so willingly. The other thing is there was no need for flirting or need for “the chase” there. Sex was the default. New guests are welcomed with a blowjob. And so for me it was a bit devalued and didn’t turn me on as much as it used to.

I still go back from time to time though usually clothed, just to hang out and chat or go to the club there.

DJ Kendra

The main reason I mention Chi Tau is I did met some lovely and wonderful people there, many of whom remain friends to this day. Two of them, Alice and Kendra were neighbours for a while when I first owned my own place. Kendra sold me my very first land parcel – 1024SQM for only $100L (I later sold it for $8,000L but she refused to let me share the profit with her, bless her).

We have since moved away from each other due to me buying a better parcel by the sea and them also moving, but those were the first people I developed a real friendship with. Alice and I sit and chat for hours sometimes. Timing is tricky because she is in Australia but we try to find some time at least once every week or so.

Chatting round at Alice’s

Also I don’t want to take anything away from the people who run Chi Tau… It is pretty big and a lot of work goes into making it run, with events every day and games and scoring systems and so on. For a lot of people it’s a great place, just depends what you want in life. For me it was a stepping stone that took me from newbie with no friends to having a social circle, and for that I am thankful 🙂


Lena. We shared some intimate secrets. We fell in love and were very close. I can’t really put succinctly what went wrong. Suffice to say she did nothing wrong, and it is a private matter. I wanted to mention her because she was a big part of my first six months in SL and I am very grateful for the magical times we spent together. I hope she is happy and well, whatever she is doing.

I resolved after separating from Lena to have a bit of a break from all of that heavy emotional stuff and get back to having fun, and also getting creative such as with the work I did on designing my new home.

retro games

Around this time I had met Sheree on Twitter and then met her in-world when I visited to her cafe, which at the time was set up for Halloween. Sheree has been a close friend ever since and has taken me on lots of adventures including sailing, speedboating, flying in a helicopter, flying in a plane and invading an aircraft carrier.

Puss-Air buzzing the Coast Guard

Sheree is also a vampire and was the first to bite me, inducting me into the world of Bloodlines which is a vampire RP game that runs in Second Life. We don’t take it super seriously but it is a lot of fun and a good excuse to bite people (or in my case be bitten). And also within Bloodlines there are clans, and through our clan Angels of Cyrus I have met even more new friends and been to some great parties too 🙂

Sheree introduced me to her partner Abby, who you can see in the next picture about to sink her fangs into my neck! That turned out to be quite a day…

Feeding my darling vampires

It’s hard to believe that was only six weeks ago. Maybe it was the bite, but something infected me that day and I started seeing Abby quite a lot, both with Sheree but also sometimes just the two of us hanging out and going shopping or exploring.

To be honest… and I had to keep this to myself for weeks… trying to play it cool (which I later learned I did a pretty bad job of lol)… I didn’t really care so much where I went or what I was doing so long as it was with Abby.

Uh-oh… yes here we go with all that emotional stuff again.

Abby came to visit

What was lovely was all of the time I spent with Abby was out in the open. It’s lovely to meet a couple so mature and open about things that they can comfortably welcome a new person like me into their world. Especially given how people live in different time zones, or have different hours or days when they can access Second Life, open relationships can make a lot of sense for people who have the right attitude.

my butt photobombing an otherwise perfect shot

And so it was… just six days ago that I had a chat with Sheree and she told me that Abby and I had her blessing if we wanted to make it official, which of course we did because… well, I don’t need to spell it out. ❤️❤️

And furthermore I was invited me to take the family name Honeyflower (which I happen to think sounds just perfect after Olivia) and also come and share their lovely home. Thank you so much!

On the deck at Vinyard Island West

So that is how, exactly six months into my life, I come to be writing this sat out on the deck by the water’s edge in one of the most exclusive and beautiful spots in all of Second Life and feeling like I’ve won the romantic lottery too.

It has been a whirlwind six months and I just want to say how grateful I am to all the people mentioned above. But especially to Sheree for being generous, lovely and selfless, and to Abby for putting up with the emotional soap opera in my head, and being there for me in so many ways. I love you.

Olivia over and out. X

2 thoughts on “Six Months Old Today

  1. I’m happy to have met you also. Beautifully written, like Sheree said. Thanks for entering our lives, darling. ♥


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